We hear this word being bandied about a lot recently but what does it really mean? And how do you develop it? It can seem really hard to think how to develop this.
Resilience - noun: the capacity to recover quickly from difficulties; toughness.
So, it’s the ability to bounce back from quickly from difficult circumstances. Whether that is the pressure of exams, needing to work and help at home, or discovering you must move to a new house again. All these situations and many others can be very stressful and mean that when we have several different things going on that are challenging it and become overwhelming.
Resilience is maybe sometimes feeling down, stressed, or anxious but knowing that we will not feel like that forever and not giving up. Knowing that we will feel better again and quickly getting back to being our normal selves.
Some twenty years ago an American doctor started some research into how difficulties when growing up would affect long term outcomes and the results have been shocking.
The ACEs study's results show that maltreatment and household dysfunction in childhood contribute to health problems decades later. These include chronic diseases—such as heart disease, cancer, stroke, and diabetes—that are the most common causes of death and disability. It also shows a major impact on risk taking behaviours and other social issues.
Life throws all kinds of challenges at us. Starting a new school or job, exams or deadlines, moving house, problems at home, illness, bereavement, issues with friends, bullying…the list could go on. We can only do our best to manage these problems and issues without allowing it to completely stress us out and affect our well-being.
What is Autism?
Autism is a lifelong condition that affects how a person communicates with and relates to other people, and how they experience the world around them. There is no known cure but there are many ways to support someone with autism to improve their quality of life. Autism can affect different people in different ways. Something that may help one person with ASD, may not help someone else, and is often referred to as Autistic Spectrum Disorder (ASD). Some common behaviours that may be seen in young people with ASD may include:
• problems making friends
• taking what is said to them literally
• unpredictable emotional responses such as anxiety for no apparent reason
• repeating things over and over
• needing to stick to routines very closely and difficulty coping with changes
• difficulties maintaining attention
• avoiding things such as lights, colours, sounds, patterns, smells, touch by shutting eyes or blocking ears
• fascination with looking, smelling, licking objects
I love the changes of seasons and the blending from Summer into Autumn is a beautiful time as, here in the UK at least, it stays warm well into September and even October whilst changes begin to occur. This gives a lovely soft transition from one time to the next so it’s never a harsh push from Summer to Autumn, just a gentle reminder that nothing stays permanent and yet for good reason as life cycles round again.
During this time, I like to reflect and slow down even more to take a pause and notice where I’m at. Am I happy with how things are going or do I need to make changes? Asking questions can be very helpful as long as we’re not doubting our abilities to progress on our journey. You can ask questions without distrusting yourself. So asking at points for example, ” Is this the best path for my dream?” or “What is important for me to know today?” These are really helpful questions that can clarify what we are doing rather than making us wobble!
Crea8ing Careers - Foundations for the future.